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Are Compliments as Good as Cash?

Written by Andrew on January 19, 2018

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When you give compliments to someone, you suddenly brighten their day. It is a delight for anyone to hear great words coming towards them. Think about yourself — wouldn’t you have a great day if the first thing you heard in the morning was a compliment?

Compliments are better than cash

Receiving compliments resembles finding a treasure. When you hear treasure, your mind contemplates cash; however, the fortune of giving and getting compliments is more profitable than money. That’s because a positive and motivated mind can create and achieve even those things you consider impossible. Scientists have proven this theory with several tests. They’ve shown that a person who receives compliments is happier and more productive than others. When you go to work, you may think you are motivated by cash, but the participants in certain behavioral tests were motivated simply by compliments.

Perform better when given a compliment

Let me tell you a short real story which happened to me a few years ago. It was the first occasion when I understood that the energy of compliments is one of the greatest powers in life.

In college, I was a semi-pro tennis player. May 5, 2011, was a great day for me and I remember it like it was yesterday. I was playing in the national final against the best player. She had won the first set, and was 3-0 in the second set. That was the time when I requested a mentor break. My mentor, Michael, knew I cherished motivational and helpful quotes; however, he understood that repeating some old quote wouldn’t accomplish anything in that moment, so he considered compliments a better way.

“You have been doing this for 10 years. You have been practicing like no other and you’ve never backed down. Remember who you are. You are the player who won her last 18 games. Coaches in this country are teaching their players using videos of you. You have the strongest and most accurate forehand. Your serve is a killer. Remember when you were injured and you won a game based on your serve and your return. You have the most accurate short slice. This is who you are. You are a combination of talent and ambition. Take each point at a time knowing who you are.”

No one had ever talked to me like that before. At that moment I realized what kind of player and what kind of person I was. It was the moment when the match started one more time for me. It was the moment I discovered compliments and understood its power. Yes, I won the match.

Receiving Compliments helps us learn

Every one of us wants to get better. Receiving praise and compliments helps you understand that you are not trying in vain. When someone compliments you about an activity you did, your brain wants more because it loves that feeling. Your brain will put you to work and you will start researching and learning more about how can you become better at what you do. Compliments will become your motivation.

Being a semi-pro tennis player, I have the habit of jogging every day. My friend Molly wanted to start jogging to lose some weight, and I wanted a running partner. After running together the first day, I complimented her, saying what a great runner and helpful partner she was. I told her that running that way, she will lose weight in no time. The next day she called to set the hour for our running session. We have been running together since then. She feels great and she has achieved her goal.

Real compliments can be offered to friends to make them understand that they are good at what they do, or to let them know you appreciate them. You can use compliments with people you meet for the first time: “Nice to meet you!” After some time you can say: “I really like how you are thinking,” or “You are a smart person; let’s talk again on other occasions as well.”

Though I have read a lot of articles on how to “build” a compliment, I think you should keep it natural. If you want to compliment someone, just do it. Use your imagination and your real thoughts.

-Annaishere

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The Mojo Booster: Oxytocin

Written by Andrew on July 13, 2017
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“You make a life by what you give.” – Winston Churchill

Could you use a happy boost? Use the Motee app to send a friend a Motee message. It’s a fun, easy (and free!) way to show your appreciation or respect for something someone did. Here’s some of the science behind why Team Motee wanted to create a way to easily send a friend a compliment. You might think it’s for your friend, but actually, you both reap the benefits.

Helping others has always been something that brought about good feelings. On the surface level, that’s true! Helping others brings on a positive wave of emotions because we know it’s the right, good thing to do. But there’s something a little more beneath the surface of this common phenomenon. Helping others releases natural doses of oxytocin. It’s the best mojo booster of all time.

You may have heard of it in your high school biology class. It’s one of our big neurotransmitter hormones. It occurs naturally and plays a big role in romance and reproduction. With the help of research and testing by scientists, we’ve discovered that oxytocin is responsible for much more than just baby making.

A top expert in oxytocin named Dr. Paul Zak, has dubbed it the “moral molecule“. He and others have found that oxytocin is responsible for working as a “social glue that keeps society together.” It’s the neurotransmitter that helps humans feel trust, virtue, affection, and love. Dr. Zak has done tests on the natural and artificial release of oxytocin in the bloodstream. He discovered that humans under the effects of oxytocin are more generous and trusting, with little difference in the results between natural or artificial sources.

According to Dr. Zak’s research, helping others will trigger the release of oxytocin. When your body gets a dose from something that triggers the release, it becomes habitual and easier to release a second time. Happiness builds happiness! A wave of good feelings isn’t the only trend ocytocin creates.

Oxytocin boosts radiate from one person to another. It’s a cascade of happiness. This creates a cycle of positive behavior and good feelings. For example, if you help someone study, there is a positive effect on the giver and receiver. The emotions feed and reinforce into a bloom of happy.

There are other ways, too, that helping another person can benefit the helper. Getting out there and helping someone (even a friend!) can reap benefits. Scientists in Canada found that the chemical can help promote extroversion. The Research Chair in Developmental Psychopathology at Concordia University, Mark Ellenbogen, reports that “our study shows oxytocin can change how people see themselves, which could in turn make people more sociable. Under the effects of oxytocin, people can perceive themselves as more extraverted, more open to new ideas and more trusting.”